DateCity
The FREE UK dating and contact site – January 2004 Issue
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Letters is you love life giving you grief. A problem shared … Dear Datecity, I am in love
with the new guy in our office, however he doesn’t
know it yet. I (foolishly) told one of
my other colleagues and now I getting continually
teased to go and ask him out. Trouble
is I have always relied on men doing the asking and not the girls, hence I haven’t got the confidence to go and do it
… Claire, Plymouth. As the saying goes if you don’t ask, you don’t get! However at first the asking always seems
difficult. Rather than just going
straight up to him and asking him out be more
subtle. If he goes to town one lunch
time, try and walk in with him. Or
suggest a group of you go for a drink after work and make an effort to chat
with him. Either way you will find out
more about how you get on together and it will make the asking a lot easier –
he may even beat you to it! Dear Datecity, I’ve
been going out with my boyfriend for about a month now and he has started
hinting about sex. I am worried that
he is a lot more experienced and I’m still a virgin. I really like him and don’t mind starting
to have sex with him, but if I’m bad at it he may leave me! Help! … Liz, Firstly don't worry about being a virgin. The only time this is a
problem is if you are not ready for sex in your mind. From what you say you are ready, just
nervous. You don’t need to be - most
guys are actually more turned on by sleeping with a virgin. Tell your boyfriend upfront so he is more gentle, and try and feel as good as possible about
yourself. i.e have a nice bath beforehand and get some new
clothes for the night. And when it
comes to sex just concentrate on doing what feels good to you, and let him
take the lead. Dear Datecity, I am
really low in confidence when it comes to women, and I don't know what to do
about it. I try going to nightclubs but I always feel nervous and never get
anywhere. I feel very lonely and just want someone to be with ... Dave, If you are not comfortable in nightclubs then do not use them to
try and meet a girl, there are several other places where you will be much
more comfortable and hence come across more confident. Try an evening class,
or look through the local paper for a club or interest group that you could
join or help out with. Pick something
you like, but that won’t be completely male interest. Alternatively visit your local sports centre and put up a notice asking for a tennis or
badminton partner. Either way you will have the chance to meet and get to
know a girl in an environment where you can talk to her without the pressure
of trying to chat her up. Want to share your problem with us? Just e-mail it to contributions@directpublishing.co.uk
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